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Stay humble
Being humble is something I’ve watched people not do. The further they got up the ladder to where they wanted to be, the more big headed they got. It’s been interesting to see those who have climbed high but have had a turn in life where they’re back at the bottom. But because they’ve returned to the bottom, all the people they pissed off along the way are now not willing to help them once again like they did the first time.
Over the past year or so, I myself have felt the pressures of returning where I was a few years ago, due to a job change, trying to pour more into my investing portfolio and also some unfortunate circumstances have happened, like my mum being diagnosed with cancer.
Over the past two years, I’ve made a choice to go back a few steps while I’m still young, and to go from this point to grow and progress properly. But because I’m now back playing in the dirt, I’m glad I stayed humble to those around me. This has paid off massively where people are willing to help me get to where I want to be. But not everyone does this because they don’t account for going two steps back. But life does this to you when you least expect it to.
The importance of treating people with kindness is so underrated. I know a guy, let us call him Greg for this sake, who bullies his way to get what he wants. Greg joined a mate working within a company where the boss hired him just because he was friends with the boss’s son. He then pushed his weight about, meaning he would make it look like he did the work when actually the two guys who stayed quiet would have put in their efforts for Greg to take the credit. This is a classic hierarchical system in the work place, which I learnt from Jordan Peterson when I did his online course. Apparently, only a small minority of workers actually do the work for any company, and the majority just mess about. Those who mess about, making it look like they do the work are the ones who get paid the most, and the workers who say nothing because they’re too busy working hard to get the job done get paid the least, even if they do most of the effort.
So from this, the two guys who put in the efforts handed in their notice after three years of tolerating Greg’s behaviour. Now Greg was left to his own devices where he was now having to do more work. Greg then suggests to the boss that it’s a struggle to get work done because of the lack of people due to those two people who left. So the two people who did the work that quit, were now replaced with 3 other younger more naive guys who got paid less.
It was interesting that the boss who was also losing interest in the company had faith in Greg, the person who didn’t do the work. The company now is running close to being in debt at the time of writing, and they struggle to keep it afloat, just making enough for payroll, but no profit. So Greg may even be pushed out of the job to where he’ll have to start all over again.
The two guys that left are now in places where they’re appreciated and get rewarded for their efforts, but if Greg were to approach either of them, my suspicions are that they aren’t going to be that helpful to Greg’s request of helping him out.
It’s interesting to see things play out in life. And to be kind to one another is super important. Without the kindness, you only end up shooting yourself in the foot for not doing what is a simple task of being a decent human being. Some people think it’s better to be more assertive, which is correct. But being assertive mixed with unpleasantness doesn’t get you far. You need to know where your limit is within your assertiveness and to be kind in the same process to where people gain a level of respect for where you need to be. I believe Gary Vaynerchuk (aka GaryVee) called it kind candour in his book “Twelve and a half”. Gary’s definition of kind candour (candor) is: The quality of being open and honest in expression; frankness.
It’s knowing when to have the ability to have authority but to have the ability to know you’re not speaking to a wall. You’re speaking to another human being who has feelings. That is the importance of empathy, and staying humble. Even if you have the ability to be where Greg is, if he treated the other employees with compassion, I think they would help him out when he will eventually need it, but the way that it’s going, I don’t see that happening.
I myself am glad to have the right people around me who want to see me win, and I think by learning the basics of being pleasant to other people will get you far.
Stay humble. It will get you further than anything else ever will.
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Bad energy dampens your optimism
What media do you consume?
The more I’ve been thinking about it, the more I can’t seem to unsee it. The media we as individuals see on a daily basis is how we base our opinions, our thoughts, and our ideas to what we consume.
But it only crossed my mind not too long ago how one sided the media is. No matter what news source you get your information from, they all have an agenda to sell us the ideologies of whatever the person who runs the news channels WANTS us to see or hear.
We consume the ideas pushed normally by one sided arguments to get us (the public) to agree with one side and that is usually the one that wins within an upcoming election, or maybe its towards a vote on who is next in power. The idea of pushing a popular idiot into power is put to us in a long formed propaganda, to where we end up doing exactly what we’re told to do and sometimes we don’t even know it!
It takes just one look back at the timeline of past presidents (or here in the UK, prime ministers) who are favourably unpopular, but even those who don’t watch or listen to the news will vote for that person who is most heard of, and they don’t base it off of the agreements of policy they are actually pushing.
It was in a recent podcast I was listening to, where the presenter said to become aware of how the news is presented to us.
What language do they use? What points do they emphasise on? What adjectives do they use? What do they place on the news to where things seem normal around certain agendas? Like for example, they feature heavily the army equipment in recent stories to get us used to the idea that it’s “okay” and “normal” for there to be army helicopters flying over head every time we just want to nip out the house to get a pint of milk. They want to normalise the scenes of political power doing things wrong and people accepting that those people won’t be punished for doing something terrible. They normalise the things that seem crazy so we don’t question it. But my question to you is…. Why? Why are they doing it?
If they keep us emerged in the glossed over picture that they paint, then we accept anything. This is not how democracy works. We are losing who we once were as free people in charge of our own decisions, but now bigger power has shifted to where only a few people in the world run the majority of decisions, which isn’t good for anyone.
Be open minded to why we don’t see both sides of an argument on the news. Be wise to the idea that they WANT to push their thoughts onto you, so it benefits those in power. Be mindful of the language they use, and see if you can figure out the real message they’re pushing.
Because from what I can see, it isn’t a good one.
Is it a happy Valentines day? David Bowie didn’t think so
How important really is accountability?
This year I have set myself the target to be more creative. I used to write a lot of my thoughts down and share them in blog posts, or over on YouTube in video format, but over the past couple of years, I have quietly sat back from writing down my thoughts as much. (Sorry for not posting as often as I used to!)
There has been no real reason for this, but I don’t want to lose this quality that I see in myself to be able to write a good piece and to share it. I don’t want to lose my ability to share thoughts on camera for others to see. I’m concerned about the world we live in may be becoming less and less creative, but with more demand on things just happening for us. For example, kids flicking through social media where they’re getting an instant dopamine hit through the content they watch. Late teens tapping a few buttons for a pizza delivery firm to bring them their dinner in minutes. Early adult life of ordering something online and expecting the item to be there within less than 12 to 18 hours. It’s a world gone crazy for instantaneous lifestyle.
So when it comes to fixing our mindset from where we are now to where we want to be in a few years time, the traction just isn’t as quick. Self development is a slower process. I mean, I speak from experience of how it took me over 4 years to get into a more positive frame of mind. Not exactly the same time frame that it is to order from your phone, hey?
But now I see a generation of more people who just can’t be bothered to take the time to sort out their life. They would rather sit on their phone and complain about how bad their day has been online. They type out 160 characters and press that button. Many people like to watch their phone to see how much interaction that post will get, rather than using that time to solve the actual problem they’re complaining about!
So this leads me to the thought of accountability. How can we personally take this accountability to be able to work on ourselves during a time where the world feels like it’s whizzing past us at a hundred miles per hour? We need to pause for thought. To stop ourselves in the moment. To open our eyes and to do something that will get our own attention, so we pull ourselves out of this haze in life. We walk around not knowing what we’re doing, only to then see that we are stuck in a routine. And maybe this routine isn’t good for you.
Pause now, and become aware of what’s around you. If you’re reading this on your phone, look up. Are you outside? Look at the sky. Are you inside your bedroom? Look out the window. Are you walking? Don’t read and walk, that’s just a disaster waiting to happen. Do something right this second to pull yourself out of your busy day. You then give yourself this chance to actually become aware of what’s happening around you. Now you’re paused at this moment, think right now this question: “Am I accountable for the life I am living?” Ask yourself, “Are you really doing everything in your power to be a better person and to become the best person to the best of your ability?” These are a few things to draw your attention to.
When you do this, you have to answer it with a real answer of either, “yes, I am doing those things” or “no, I’m not following through to take myself to the best path in life”.
This is accountability. To become accountable for the life you lead, you must see where you are from this point forward. If you’re not where you need to be, maybe you could benefit from working on your own thoughts and mind processes. If you’re on track to getting the things you want in life, ask yourself “Are these things really an idea that I have for myself, or has someone subconsciously gave me this perception of wanting these things in life?” AHA! Another turn on the road-map you never planned for. I had to get you somehow!
Now whatever it is you’re asking yourself, it’s time to become accountable for the actions you take from this moment. This wasn’t a plan of how to get you through your life. This was a blog post that I thought would help question something inside your mind, and to throw a spanner in the works which I hope you can now use to becoming better at something a long the way of your journey.
Bear in mind that although the world moves fast, self development and self care takes time to see real change and authentic growth into becoming the person you were destined to be. But maybe that wouldn’t have happened had I not of questioned you through this creative piece of writing. At least I have been accountable for writing this. Now it’s your turn to have the accountability for changing your journey, whatever it may be.
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Ken Block was THE best of the best
The sad news hit our ears this week when Ken Block, one of the best drivers of our times in Motorsport history passed away in a tragic accident, but to many people’s surprise, not in a car.
Ken Block has done so much in his lifetime, which I could put side by side with a video game. His driving skills broke the laws of physics, where he would throw a car around like we do on the PlayStation. His talents were mind blowing. From jumping his vehicles up to 25ft in the air, all the way to drifting on the edge of a large drop into the sea, he has done it all.
Here’s a couple photos of myself drifting. He inspired me to give it a go too.
He was an inspiration for me, where he stated in an interview once, that “if you’re not scared, you’re not going fast enough”. He was also asked where his legacy will lead him, and his response was brilliant. He said “I try to inspire people to be creative and live a fun life. Oh, and don’t be an asshole”.
His words, yet light hearted at the time now make sense of his purpose. He fulfilled it. Unfortunately, he has been taken early, but at the cost of truly living.
I remember Ricky Gervais once saying “they say if you don’t drink and smoke you live ten years longer….BUT, they’re the worst years” which is a very valid point. Who wants to get to their 100’s if all you do is survive? At what point do you decide to never go on an adventure again? When do you sit down and think “I’m going to say or do nothing that will move me forward from this point on, as long as I can live longer” – No one ever regrets the things they’ve done as much as the people who regret NOT doing the things they never did at all.
If you get to your mid 50’s knowing you lived everyday with full intention, with the practicality of not missing a day where you spent it smiling, and enjoying every moment of every hour, then that would have been enough.
If you get to your 100th birthday hoping to get a piece of folded card signed by the King, but you didn’t enjoy your everyday life getting their for the price of not doing the things you enjoyed, then it’s time to question your choices today, before you even reach that point.
It is not death that we should fear, but not beginning to truly live, to enjoy our surroundings, to take those trips, to create those memories, and to have a bloody good laugh in the process. That is what life is for, and Ken Block has a documented journey of all the smiles and laughs that he’s had doing it. For that, I raised a can of Monster Energy (a brand that he gave a good reputation to) to him this week.
Now here’s to you. Make a decision today that will benefit your tomorrows.